Who doesn’t love to party? Whether big or small, simple or grand, special occasion or just because, we like to party or celebrate.
But we also have to be practical. One thing I & others find irritating is when people try & borrow money from us so that they can throw a party. Gustong magkaroon ng engrandeng kasal, debut , birthday o binyag, di bale nang mabaon sa utang o manghiram ng pera sa mga kamaganak & kaibigan based abroad, makapaghanda & makapag-party lang ng magarbo.
They say the 1st, 7th & debut birthday (18 for girls, 21 for boys) dapat bongga ang handa. If you can afford it, sure, why not! But realistically, for the 1st birthday, your adorable little son or daughter isn’t going to remember the event, so there’s no real need to have a big party. Kids for the most part are easy to please. On their birthday have a simple celebration at home or take them to their favorite restaurant, no need to go into debt having food catered or holding the party at a restaurant & buying loads of gifts. If you want to have a grand celebration for your daughter’s 18th or your son’s 21st birthday, you should start saving up as soon as you found out you’re having a baby.
Di ko rin maintindihan why some would ask for financial help for a baptism. Aba eh mag-aanak ka, pambinyag lang di mo makayang i-provide, ba’t ka pa nagkaanak? Wag ka nang magparty after the binyag, a simple celebration will do.
Some will say, “Di bale, basta masaya tayo, ok lang gumastos para sa party.” How can you be truly happy if you’re saddled with debt for a non-essential expense like a party? And if you have no savings or life insurance to speak of & God forbid something happens like a serious illness or death of the breadwinner of the family, how will people provide for themselves? Mangungutang uli o aasa sa mga taga-abroad to provide for their needs?
It’s ok to party, people, but let’s be practical. If you can’t afford it, have a simple & happy celebration with family & close friends, the people who matter to you. You might have a small & no-frills celebration, but the fun & memories will be priceless.
Den you are right every word of it and for the parents and soon to be parents, you should save now. That’s what i did to my daughter at kaya isa lang ang anak ko kasi pang isa lang ang budget ko.
borrowing money for a party is really so hard to understand Den. I am glad our very practical parents did not bring us up to enjoy party, but instead, brought us up to enjoy simple things, basic things, and enjoy also the feeling of independence and stress free life if there is enough savings to cushion for the rainy days. Though when we reached 7 years old, I guess our parents did not want us to think they never gave us a chance to enjoy party, so, starting at that age, they asked us if we want a party of want the money be saved in our account, or buy something we want and whatever is left will go to our savings. well, like what i told you, i would always choose to buy new shoes but always had extra to put into my savings. I must say that it helped me a lot, because when I was reviewing for board exams, my father got very ill and had major operation and it costed a lot of money, my mom was crying thinking that they could not support my review financially anymore, but thanks be to the savings they gave me every birthday, every Christmas and etc, my savings was able to support the last crucial months of completing my licensure. it is indeed frustrating, and irritating to hear some borrowing money, getting stressed about bills, but all to spend to party. it’s okay if one can afford i guess, as everybody is entitled how to spend their money and enjoy some of the icing on their cake, but to borrow money is just a ?????